Grow up as a girl you may have had some pretty conclusive ideas what it meant to become a woman. You swore you’d never replace a soccer ball with a make up kit, and you haven’t. You decided that you’re the kind of woman that goes to the game instead of the salon. That’s great. We all need the freedom to become the person we believe we are. Every now and then we can offer ourselves a little more by embracing the idea that we can have the best of both worlds.

Some women start pampering themselves when they find their first wrinkle. Suddenly the need for anti aging wrinkle cream sets off the need to take care of the rest of them, including the spirit. Once you have spent a weekend waxing cars for charity, it’s not a bad idea to step back and do something that helps you to feel feminine. While skin peeling chemical treatments and Botox shots might not be one your list of good ideas, you can create your own list.

Whether we are just overworked or we are not terribly aware of our own needs, sometimes we make sure that time for us never shows up on our very busy calendar. In fact, it’s not unusual for women to focus all of their energy on the needs of everyone else for as long as possible. We were taught this is what makes us good partners and mothers. We work and then we ensure that we have a busy evening car pooling, cooking, cleaning, or getting some of that extra work from the office done.

When do we fit into that schedule? How many evenings do you have that you can freely leave the house and go get a little special time treatment? If you can’t go because of the schedule then it is time that you look at rearranging the schedule.

Single women with children are going to have to get more creative than women in long term relationships. Often you’re going to have to find ways to rotate family members as babysitters or find a little evening time to devote to you after the kids are in bed. Your need for energizing through self tenderness is inarguable as you are stretched even tighter than other women.

Pampering means different things to different people. On a cold winter night some of us might find a hot bath to be the most impressive pampering possible. Other might feel that they need ten minutes every morning to pamper themselves into looking as good as they can. However you choose to define the idea of pampering is cool since it’s your time.

Setting aside just a small amount of personal time really does make you a better mother, partner, colleague, and friend to those around you. There is nothing quite like taking time out and focusing on your needs and your special time. Every life could use a little balance.

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